Friday, December 12, 2014

Baby on Board!


I know, it took a while to register with me too.


Things people have been asking....

When is the due date? 
June 26th, 2015. The day before my dad's birthday. 

How far along? 
Three months today. The wording of that question, 'how far along', makes me think we're talking about either something really personal like 'when did you last change your underwear?' Or something really common, like 'when is dinner going to be ready?' It's hard to explain, but I guess I'm getting used to it.

How are you feeling? 
Relieved now that we heard the flutter of a beating heart, saw the baby turning around and trying to eat its toes and can share the biggest secret we've ever kept! Also, scared, excited and very hungry for fruit and sweet things. The other day I ate yogurt with granola for breakfast and lunch. I hate yogurt. I also don't eat breakfast. Things are changing: small things as well as big things that I have a hard time picturing yet. I have also been extra emotional. The other day I cried at Ralph's grocery store when the cashier offered to go get the raisins I meant to buy instead of the prunes I brought to the register. I have also been experiencing morning sickness, but it's the worst at night. There are a lot of things I can't even think about eating right now that I usually love; like chips and salsa and soup. I was sure I wouldn't get sick at all because I love reading in the car and amusement park rides that are named things like "The Rotator". I was so wrong. I am carrying on with my love of soy sauce and parmesan cheese microwaved onto rice cakes. Rest assured. 

Are you moving to a bigger place? 
No. Doesn't it sound fun to share a one bedroom with a screaming newborn? No really, it does to me. Right now I'm more excited about making room than I am about moving. Also, there's a lot of change going on already, so I'm focusing on where new furniture can go and how I get to learn to knit baby clothes and buy more stuffed animals!

Are you going to find out if it's a boy or a girl? 
No! I don't know about secrets, but we like surprises.

Are you going to keep surfing? 
I've been surfing for the first three months so far and have been encouraged that I will be able to continue to surf after seeing videos like this and reading articles like this. The doctor said it's good to continue with your regular exercise routines as long as you take necessary precautions and listen to your body. I am looking into getting a foam board for my second and third trimesters, though. If surfing doesn't feel right, I will get to spend time doing things I wish I did more often like body surfing and swimming.

What I would have wanted to ask myself if I could have before any of this happened...

Are you any different now that you're a mom-to-be than before? 
Not really. I was always kind of crazy and emotional, remember? That has stayed the same. I don't want to surf any less, but the other day I sat and watched a perfect double-overhead north west swell peel and launch itself over the reefs in front of the house and I thought about what a gift it would be to share something so powerful and transcending with someone who doesn't even know of its existence yet. A good swell will probably always get my attention and maybe I will pass that on to this person we will raise.

I still don't feel like a grownup either. I knew you'd be wondering, old, non-baby-carrying self. I don't feel any more like a grownup because I haven't outgrown the person I've always been. I'm still curious. I'm still wild. I'm still longing for more from life. I think, by definition or by stereotype, we think being a grownup means giving up your childish fantasies, but I'm never going to do that. I'm still looking for a hole in a tree that might lead to Wonderland; for the star in the sky that is Never Neverland. I do not, however, feel invincible anymore. I never fully felt before how vulnerable we are driving in the fast lane.

Do you miss drinking alcohol? 
At first it was hard to imagine not having a drink with dinner or playing flip-cup with my friends for 40 weeks or more. I thought Halloween was borderline unbearable being sober. I wrote in my journal that I didn't think I had ever really been sober on that hallowed day since even as a kid I was drunk on sugar and sleep deprivation. I asked Scott if I could smell his wine while he was drinking it. I wondered why I had never appreciated all the layers of flavor in a good cabernet. But after a few weeks, it didn't matter anymore. I don't think I ever fully realized how good water is; how it wakes you up inside; how without it, nothing would live. 

A quote from one of my favorite books, The Secret Life of Bees

"'Our Lady is not some magical being out there somewhere, like a fairy godmother. She's not the statue in the parlor. She's something inside of you. Do you understand what I'm telling you?'
'Our lady is inside of me,' I repeated, not sure I did.
'You have to find a mother inside yourself. We all do. Even if we already have a mother, we still have to find this part of ourselves inside.'"

p.s. this is the board Scott had when we met. 

25 comments:

  1. DEVON!!!!! I'm so excited for you right now! Congrats!!! Our babies are going to be just a few months apart :)

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  2. HUGE, gigantic, Congratulations to you both!!! How amazing, a water baby! I hope you can surf as long as possible and wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy.

    xo

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  3. Wow that is huge news, congratulations to you both. Wishing you happiness and health on your new journey!

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  4. Congrats guys! Welcome to the mommy club! Still just a newb here, but we're having so much fun!

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  5. OH MY GOSH CONGRATULATIONS!! you're going to be the coolest mom.

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  6. Oh my word,CONGRATS!!!! How exciting,hope the pregnancy continues to go smoothly for you and baby!!

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  7. CONGRATS!! So so exciting! Welcome to the mama-to-be club :)

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  8. SHUT. THE. FRONT. DOOR!!!! Omg Devon, such wonderful news! I am beaming for you! And so interested to read about your surfing adventures while pregnant... check this video out too if you haven't already: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GV4msMDsQno. I believe she blogged about it throughout her whole pregnancy.

    <3 <3 <3 Love to you and Scott!

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  9. waahooo! congrats!! so much fun. your write up about this was beautiful - every last part of it. thanks so much for sharing!

    6000milestohome.blogspot.com

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  10. Congratulations to you both Devon, that's wonderful news, I'm so happy for you, I'm sat here smiling so widely. You're going to be an amazing mum, so many happy adventures await. I'm glad you're well, I hope the morning/evening sickness eases off a bit soon. CJ xx

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  11. Oh how exciting!! Congratulations! I'm amazed that you guys are going to wait to find out the gender I've only had one friend who did that and I really thought she would crack before the big day, but she never did. :) She and her husband ended up having a little girl. :) Anyway, whatever gender your baby is... that's super exciting! :)

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  12. Congratulations!! We don't know each other, but I follow you and your beautiful blog so it's like I've been knowing you for a while anyway ;)
    I'm so happy for you and the family you're building! Such exciting news!
    xo

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  13. Yay! Major congrats to you and Scott! So happy for you guys. Who'd of thought that you, me and, Lindsay would all be preggo at the same time?!?! I love it!

    I've continued to Crossfit 4x/week and lift heavy weights, etc. It makes me feel great and I think is part of the reason for an easy pregnancy thus far. Keep doing what you love--staying active and flexible is so important. But you'll get a million "When are you going to stop doing X?" and "Is X safe for the baby?" questions.

    I know you have tons of support...but I'm happy to chat or hop on the phone. We are doing hypnobabies, midwifery care, and home birth. Happy to discuss any/all with you.

    <3

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  14. Congratulations!! What an exciting time! You guys will be amazing parents :)

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  15. Congratulations! Tremendous—can't wait for you to see your baby smile, but in the meantime, enjoy the next months and weeks, the adventure of parenthood begins!

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  16. Congratulations ! That's wonderful news !!

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  17. CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm sending you an email now....:)

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  18. I'm a bit late to the news but congraaaaaaaaaaaaaatulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep surfing, for sure, and exercising! Until you can't keep your balance, then maybe just buggy boarding ;). Congrats again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  19. Congratulations, Devon! As you know, I was in SD the last couple of days, so I haven't read blogs since early last week. Em told me at our baby shower that you were pregnant, and I'm so excited for you! It's crazy to think that May of last year, the three of us were having lunch talking about babies, and now... here we are. All of us pregnant! Keep doing what you're doing. Stay active. Do whatever feels right to you. I always thought I'd be an over-preparer and have the need to plan/read every little thing, but this little girl of mine has made me very laid back... and feel very confident, surprisingly. Scott and I are taking one class next month, and I haven't obsessed over Bradley or Hynobabies like I thought I would, but I'm not worried about it. :) Try not to stress over the little things. I've learned that these little babies are very resilient!

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  20. so so so happy for you and your family!

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  21. Congratulations, Devon! Awesome news!! My wife and I probably eat Mexican food five days a week, but during her pregnancy, she couldn't take even a drop of salsa in the house...zero Mexican food for the entire stretch. Other foods she previously despised became her cravings. Pretty funny how the body deals with a new baby. So stoked for you guys!

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  22. Augh! Congratulations!! I'm an infrequent lurker on your blog, and just popped in today and saw the good news. I'm a total stranger who is super happy for you, and if it makes you feel safer I surfed up until about 6 months with my son, after that I just didn't feel.....right - my center of gravity had shifted and lying flat on my stomach wasn't comfortable. Good luck, listen to your body, and keep doing what makes you feel happy :)

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